I DO!!! Well...Hmm.

The past few weeks has found all of America, including myself, watching the every move of our favorite single-dad from Seattle Bachelor. I will admit that I have only watched one other season of the Bachelor, Andy Baldwin, and that was only because he was a triathlete, but I found that had no personality on the show.

So the Bachelor had me rooting for Melissa early on in the game. What is not to like about her? She's funny, cute, fun-loving, great with kids. I mean she's perfect.

Last night (as I don't have a TV and can't actually watch the episodes until they are posted online the next day) I googled the Bachelor news articles because I wanted to know who he ended up proposing to. I was so very excited when I read that he made the right choice! He says, "You are the woman I will spend the rest of my life with. I'm the happiest man in the universe!" Then, an hour later on the After the Rose Ceremony he dumps her. Nice. I will love you FOREVER...or at least the next six weeks.

Not to bore everyone with the details as I'm sure you all have faithfully been watching too, but you can't help but to set yourself up for failure in this situation. I mean you have six weeks to spend with 25 girls and at the end you are expected to fall in love and marry one of them? Please. Are you kidding me? Throughout the show he's always saying that he can't close himself off to one just because he's falling in love with another. You have to open yourself up to all of them because that is the way the show is played. Um...isn't this the basis for cheating? I get that they all know about each other, but it's just not normal. Perhaps if the show went over a year or so and he actually spent more than two days with them before he proposed to them it would make more sense.

When I found my own "bachelor" we knew that we were going to get married in probably about the same amount of time that they are given on the show. The difference is that we actually spent EXCLUSIVE time with each other, and we weren't out spending promiscuous nights in tents on a TV set. We weren't out there keeping our options open. There were no "what-ifs" in our lives to hold us back. There was no one else that him or I wanted to finish things with or have closure with.

Needless to say, a part of me wonders if this guy will ever find the right girl. I mean, he's already divorced and granted I'm looking at it from the outside perspective, but from watching him flit from girl to girl, do I wonder why he is divorced? Is he going to get divorced again? Why doesn't he just become Mormon and move to Texas where they have camps that you can have as many wives as you want? These are all questions that will go unanswered for me and every other viewer.

The bottom line is this, every couple has their problems. To make the decision to be with someone is easy when things are easy. But regardless, you made a commitment to that person and you should follow through with it. You got together for a reason and perhaps you have to go back and figure out what the reason is, but to not fight for something that you wanted to badly at one point or that made you the "happiest man in the universe" (for six whole weeks) is ridiculous. To be looking outside of the person you committed to for someone who might be better is cowardly. There will always be someone who is "better," at least until you get to know them.

I think the most sane people on the show....were actually Melissa's parents who refused to be on the show because they believed that marriage and engagement is an intimate thing that shouldn't be flaunted all over America. I'm going to have to say that I agree with them.

Oh, and he shouldn't have let Jillian go, although I think she is better for it. I think we will be seeing her again sometime soon. We like her.

And now a few words from the man himself.




Probably the best spoiler of the night that I read posted by J2X2X was this:

"I heard that people will actually realize how lame they are by wasting their time watching someone else's life and people all over America will get up off the couches to turn off their TV and actually live their own exciting life."

Hmm...thoughts to ponder.