'In 2004, CPS investigators found that Khandi Busby's boys were unkempt and wore dirty clothes. Officials provided Ms. Busby with services including day care, food, clothing, help with utilities and parenting skills training. The following year, investigators received a report of a domestic violence incident between Ms. Busby and her then-boyfriend. She was arrested, and the two boys were placed in foster care. They remained there for several months until a judge returned them to Ms. Busby, who was then living with her father.'
A good parent. Is there such a thing? Is there a standard that we can actually look at and see that one person is a better parent than another? Is it all just relative? I don't know. It seems to be that way, and I yet I'm the kind of person that thinks that there needs to be a standard held to world wide. Not a standard that is different depending on where you live and how bad the parents around you are, making you the better parent. A bad parent is a bad parent. Period. If they are less bad than the other parents around them, but they are still a bad parent, it doesn't make them a good parent, it makes them still a bad parent who could get worse.
This stems from an article I was reading about a lady who launched her two sons, 6 and 8, off of an overpass onto a busy freeway. This was what the lady's family and friends had to say about her.
“She was very good with those kids,” he said, “and she loved those kids.”
“She kept her kids up, kept her house clean; she was a good mother,”
This is what the end of the article had to say about Ms. Busby, AKA the "good mother."
It sounds like she was very good with those kids. It sounds as though she really loved them. Usually the things that you love you wouldn't launch over a freeway overpass causing internal injuries and serious psychological problems. How could someone even think that she was a good mother? Relativity unfortunately. What one person holds as a standard, another person may not. Fortunately, the state does have a baseline standard which is nice, such as, you throw your kids off an overpass, the state gets to raise them you crazy woman. Some people just shouldn't have the right to formulate the future of any living child.
Thursday, March 27, 2008
Standard for the "Good Parent"
Posted by honestgrl at 10:54 PM
Labels: Isn't a higher standard better than a lower one? Is that a rhetorical question?
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What in the world? Perhaps someone should look into the homelife of any kids being "raised" by those who believed this crazy person was in any way a fit parent.
I hate stupid people.
is this recent? we just had a man throw a 2 year old onto the freeway via an overpass. maybe this is turning into an epidemic. a sad, sorry, good-for-nothing epidemic. this is just wrong.
I wrote a letter to my state politician about a year ago. In it I detailed a plan for federally mandated state enforced reversible sterilization at human reproductive maturity.
One could only have the procedure reversed if determined "not an asshole", and stuff (it was more eloquent than that). I wish I had a digital copy of that letter. Maybe it's in the state archive somewhere.
I've been following this story, also, and blogged my own rant about it. Her family also said that the mother had told them she wanted to kill the kids and herself, didn't like her kids because she couldn't keep a boyfriend and felt it was their fault.
So, they knew that something like this could happen and did nothing to prevent it. Far as I'm concerned they should be standing trial with her for allowing it to happen to those poor boys.
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